More2Hug - People Of Substance

M2H - Contending with society's definition of the body beautiful is not so easy when you're a person of size. How do you deal with this?

Roberta - It helps me I think that I have a love for fashion and beauty. I am a fashion junkie! I love clothes, make-up, accessories, everything!
I know these are just exterior things but they help me to deal with society's image of what's beautiful. For me it enables me to feel like I fit in because I feel that if I dress in fashion and keep up with the trends then how could society not think me beautiful. It's not easy though; I have a fear of being seen as the stereotypical fat dirty slob so that colors everything I do when I dress for the day or shop for clothes. So when I know I look great in the outfit I'm wearing, it gives me a confidence and a feeling that I AM beautiful. And when you feel good about yourself it shows, no matter what your size.

People at my job come up to me all the time and ask me about my clothes and jewelry. One of my skinny friends tells me all the time I have more style in my little finger then she will ever have. I keep that thought in my head when I go out in public (society) and I hold my head high, cause as my best friend once said "this chick is fat and phat!" Hey a girl's gotta live with the hand she was dealt and I might as well make the best of it! I'm never going to be a size 2 so I better learn to love me as I am. It still hurts to be looked at in disdain by skinny people but I really try to remember that if they let my body size determine their feelings then they are really not people who matter to me. Real people love you no matter your size and if society doesn't like that tough! Easier said than done I know, but I feel like I've gotten to a point in my life where I don't need society's approval. I have a husband who thinks I am the sexiest woman alive. When you have that kind of love and support how can you not love yourself. I have my bad days of course, but I just try to remember, I'm fat and who cares!

M2H - Any final thought you'd like to share?

Roberta - My greatest wish is that one day women will no longer feel like they have to diet and starve themselves to fit into society.
I want every woman to stop obsessing about her weight and start obsessing about life, love and the pursuit of happiness! All of which can be achieved regardless of your weight or dress size!
The tragedy of September 11th has shown us all how short life can be. Do you really want to spend your time here on earth worrying about your weight? Enjoy life!


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