More2Hug - People Of Substance

M2H - Have you any Family Experiences or stories you wish to share?

Roberta - My family experiences with my weight are not of the inspiring kind. I grew up a skinny child until puberty and then all h*ll broke loose. My mother, a large person herself, was the kind of mom who rewarded you with food and always encouraged you to eat, eat. But at the same time, once I put on weight, I was always made to feel unattractive and unlovable. She always said, "You have such a pretty face, if only you would lose some weight" or "you used to be built so nicely", all the while offering love in the form of favorite foods and second helpings. She would mask her words in the guise of concern that she just didn't want me to go through what she had been through. Instead I grew up thinking I would never know love or have someone find me pretty. Until I moved to Florida, I thought I was probably the most unattractive person in the world. I thought I'd be the proverbial "old maid who's never been kissed." It took the friendship of 2 very special women I met in Orlando to make me see just what a sexy beautiful woman I could be.

M2H - Overcoming comments like that from family must be difficult. How do you do it?

Roberta - I know it's trite but believe in yourself and love yourself. You may be fat but so what?!. As the song goes, Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative! Focus on what's good in your life. Do things for yourself to show yourself that you love you! And if you cant find anything positive to accentuate, call me cause I'll find something about you that makes you one heck of a person!

M2H - A pretty big change in attitude...

Roberta - My attitude now is so far removed from what it was 10 years ago that people who meet me now, laugh at me when I tell them I was once the shyest, quietest person in school, and people I knew in high school barely recognize me. 10 years ago I would have thought that it was all my fault that you didn't like me, that if only I were skinnier and prettier, then you would love me and let me in.

Today I live by the attitude that I am large and in charge, and if you don't like me because of my weight well then you are obviously not a person I would want to know, because I am so much more than my weight and the loss is yours not mine.


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