a guideline to
safe romance on the net
to Know Each Other
dating is rapidly becoming the way to meet others with similar
interests, goals and values. We all lead hectic lives, which
leave us with little time to pursue personal interests. Internet
dating affords us the ability to post a personal ad and/or
peruse the ads of others, all at our own leisure.
would like to offer some hints and tips for successfully posting
a profile, answering a profile, and proceeding to a face-to-face
meeting safely. While we would like to see everyone successfully
find friendship and/or romance, we make no guarantees. Here are
some general guidelines that may prove helpful.
to Know Each Other
positive and upbeat. Present the best parts of your
personality. Don’t produce a long list of family, health
or financial woes.
- Be alert to inconsistencies
and odd holes in information. Someone who does not wish to share
that they work for ABC Company is totally understandable.
Someone who completely avoids talking about their field of work
or general information about their job should be suspect.
sharing photographs be prepared with a current, clear photo
of yourself. Do not send a five-year-old grainy photo of
yourself and your five best friends. Look around for a
friend with a digital camera or a scanner and invest the
time and effort to have a good, clear photo of your smiling
that if you change your mind at any point along the way, it
is your right to politely decline any further correspondence.
you feel pressure to meet face to face before you are ready,
you have every right to refuse to meet.
your instincts. If something feels wrong about the other
person, it probably is. If something seems too good to be
true, there is probably a reason for that as well. Be
Face to Face
people want to meet soon after first contact to see if there
is ‘chemistry’ before sharing a lot of information.
Others prefer to correspond and phone chat until they are
comfortable enough to meet in person. Both are right and
whichever is comfortable for you is right for you.
is wise to plan your first date for a public place with
people around. Don’t meet at either of your homes or a
hotel room, nor at a secluded location such as a lonely
for your first date to have a predetermined ending point.
Arrange the date for breakfast or lunch with a specified
ending time. If the date goes well, you can make another
date. If you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, do not make
to arrive separately. Drive your own car or take a taxi. If
things don’t feel right or you become uncomfortable you
don’t want to be relying on your date for a ride home.
attention to your date’s behavior. If your date is rude or
demanding to others, they will probably treat you the same
way at some
sure that someone, friend or family, knows where and when
you are to meet for your first date. If the place or time
changes, share that information with your friend or family
member. Also arrange to let them know by a certain time of
your safe return and what steps you want them to take if you
don’t make that call to them.
sober and alert. If your ‘creep meter’ goes off, pay
attention. If your date makes you feel nervous or afraid,
you have every right to cancel the date at any point.
your date with respect and courtesy to help him/her feel at
last, but not least, breathe
deep, relax and enjoy yourself as you get to know your date.